Comments on: Why is someone loving you because they “have to” inferior? http://www.mind-manual.com/blog/index.php/2008/11/30/why-is-someone-loving-you-because-they-have-to-inferior/ Figuring Out Life Together Tue, 09 Aug 2011 23:51:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: RT Wolf http://www.mind-manual.com/blog/index.php/2008/11/30/why-is-someone-loving-you-because-they-have-to-inferior/comment-page-1/#comment-24069 RT Wolf Fri, 05 Dec 2008 15:36:35 +0000 http://www.mind-manual.com/blog/?p=335#comment-24069 Haha, I agree with that. I vaguely recall reading a study that showed that over 70% of marriages occured between people who lived within like a 7-block radius of each other. Additionally, John Gottman claims to be able to predict whether a marriage will last with over 90% accuracy over a 4-6 year period. The biggest indicator of breakups? How you fight. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Gottman Thanks for commenting, very insightful. I was looking around your website and I'd like to meet you some time, I have an interest in time management as well. I'm sending you an email. Haha, I agree with that. I vaguely recall reading a study that showed that over 70% of marriages occured between people who lived within like a 7-block radius of each other.

Additionally, John Gottman claims to be able to predict whether a marriage will last with over 90% accuracy over a 4-6 year period. The biggest indicator of breakups? How you fight.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Gottman

Thanks for commenting, very insightful. I was looking around your website and I’d like to meet you some time, I have an interest in time management as well. I’m sending you an email.

]]> By: Saeid Chavoshi http://www.mind-manual.com/blog/index.php/2008/11/30/why-is-someone-loving-you-because-they-have-to-inferior/comment-page-1/#comment-24059 Saeid Chavoshi Thu, 04 Dec 2008 22:56:15 +0000 http://www.mind-manual.com/blog/?p=335#comment-24059 I liked your article, however you could go further and actually question the very nature of "true love". when people "fall in" love, is it really their own choice or are we programmed, very much akin to a robot to do so? say you are a guy sitting on a subway and you come across an attractive girl, take a moment to question why is it that she seems attractive to you? is it not for the same reasons that a bee is attracted to a flower, that is over million years of evolution certain characteristics which are indicative of better reproductive opportunities have become more salient. however this is just another way of saying we have been programmed to find it attractive. The very notion of love and relationships is so ingrained in our culture that we never really question the nature of it. most movies place love on a pedestal, as something magical, beyond the reach of science and reason. but if you really look at it, you might be a bit disappointed, especially if you like to think "you" (your conscious self) is the one in the driving seat navigating life through the virtue of free will. I liked your article, however you could go further and actually question the very nature of “true love”. when people “fall in” love, is it really their own choice or are we programmed, very much akin to a robot to do so? say you are a guy sitting on a subway and you come across an attractive girl, take a moment to question why is it that she seems attractive to you? is it not for the same reasons that a bee is attracted to a flower, that is over million years of evolution certain characteristics which are indicative of better reproductive opportunities have become more salient. however this is just another way of saying we have been programmed to find it attractive. The very notion of love and relationships is so ingrained in our culture that we never really question the nature of it. most movies place love on a pedestal, as something magical, beyond the reach of science and reason. but if you really look at it, you might be a bit disappointed, especially if you like to think “you” (your conscious self) is the one in the driving seat navigating life through the virtue of free will.

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